Undoing the Wrongs of Others

So this past week I had to finally take a stand in taking control in the things I actually can control. Here was what happened.....

I am 26 years old now, but back in '99 my mother decided to fill out a credit card application in my name and forge my signature and send it in. I was away at college at the time. Crazy thing about it is that she got approved, received the card, then told me about it. She used it to pay bills or what not and refused to pay the bill because at the time she did not have the money to pay it card off and I certainly did not have money after just starting college. After, that she had been refusing to pay it and it went to collections under my name. The thing I had been fighting for years was whether to send my mother to jail for fraud or keep bugging her to pay it off cause I could not afford the amount at the time......

Which brings me to this current day and time. The credit card company now is suing me for 10 times the amount because of the interest built up on it. The sent court papers to my old address which I still have not received as of yet, but the situation is crazy. My mothers response to it all..... "So they can't take nothing you don't have" ........"so they sent me some papers in the past too.....they ain't going to do nothing" ....... " I don't have any money to give you right now....I am in the same boat".

So why do some parents do things like this. It is like they love company when they miserable or the fact that since shit is fucked up with them that it is okay for everyone else to be fucked up too. Some people I have talked to feel that I should go to court with it and have them bust out with the application and match the signatures. That way, I am free of this high debt and that my mother does time for fraud and identity theft. However, I am going to handle this one the right way (grittin teeth) and talking to the attorneys and have arranged a way to settle and pay the debt over a period of time to avoid going to court and all. Let's see what happens. Any comments are welcomed on this topic so holla!

Planning for the End of the Year w/ flashbacks

So I am deciding whether to go home for Christmas with family or plan a trip elsewhere. So you read this statement and many are probably saying..... "Who wouldn't want to be around family?" Well every family doesn't gather around and put up the Christmas tree and cook a great Christmas dinner. Also, every family doesn't always seem to fully appreciate your presence. Now you could be thinking to yourself, maybe it's cause your family knows about you and resent you. WOW....but nope. It ain't even nothing like that because even though they are in denial and now that I realize that I am grown in the sense that it doesn't matter. That isn't even their issue and the problems that my family have go far back before last year when they found out it goes as far back as to when well...... my Mom "fell off". I guess the divorce hit her hard and we went from a well-off middle class family to just people trying to form a family. Over the course of the next couple blogs I guess I will let the world know me without really knowing who I am. But just as a synopsis..... I will go over the cycle that my mother has taken that worries me from what I observe and what I know. She has went from being happily married....to being divorce....to having a job...to not having a job or working at all..to owning a house...to barely being able to pay for a house.....to being deeply into the church .... to becoming a hypocrite of the church.....to smoking...to allegedly stop smoking....to secretly doing drugs......to selling and pawning things in the house...from picking things up in the store and committing fraud by returning them to get money back without leaving the store....to committing fraud with food stamps and going to jail. It seems like every year has it in for her. What does she need to do to change? Can I even help her? It seems like I can give her all the money in the wall, but it never seem to be enough or ever see a return on the help I give. Everything goes unappreciated. She is depressed and depressing and it seems so contagious because I think about it at times and feel myself getting depressed just to know that she is.

All in all the question remains.....should I go home for the holidays or plan a trip for myself for the New Year?